Many children lie now and then and it is completely natural as they learn to function in a society. But if the baby lies a lot, likes to suckle, you must intervene at this early stage.
There can be many reasons why a child should lie instead of telling the truth. Maybe they are trying to make themselves feel better or look cooler by showing off their lies in front of others. Or maybe they made a mistake and are afraid or embarrassed to tell the truth. Or they do some mischief and don’t want to get caught for their prank. Lying can be innocent or can cause harm to the child as well as to others. It is important to identify and track their lying behavior and take steps to effectively control the situation.
Some kids don’t consciously lie and it actually becomes part of their routine. They cannot control this habit which means the child is having trouble organizing their thoughts or thinking about the consequences of their actions or words.
Here are some strategies you can try to encourage your child to tell the truth.
Gain their trust to share the truth
If you don’t bond well with your child or are too strict whenever they make a mistake, chances are your child won’t trust you to share their mistakes or embarrassing moments with you. You also need to have a forgiving nature (although not always) and not get too mad or upset with your children when they do wrong. If not, next time they will try harder to hide the truth from you. Accept them and explain to your child that honesty will not lead to punishment. If you angrily confront your child, they may tighten their cover and lie more. The more they lie, the more likely they are to re-offend.
Use inspirational stories
In a fascinating study, researchers have found that stories that encourage honesty with a positive response, even when it admits one’s fault, make children less likely to speak. more lies than stories that come with penalties for lying. In addition to storybooks, you can also share the facts of people your child knows and teach them how honesty has benefited them.
Practice what you preach
Parents often lie to their children to manipulate their children into good behavior or to avoid difficult conversations by lying instead of telling and explaining to their children the truth. However, when your child realizes or observes that you are lying to them or anyone else around, they may recognize this behavior and accept lying as something doable. A study by the University of California, San Diego found that elementary school children who heard adults lie about the presence of candy in another room were more likely to lie to cover up their misbehavior. It is important that you set an example for yourself of right behavior and that it will be easier for your child to absorb these good values from their environment.