Swipe for Love: “I’m really looking” how do you know when you’ve met someone? “after meeting Varun”
Have you ever thought that you would find love online?
Nicole: I’ve dated someone I met online before, and I have several friends who have formed successful long-term relationships from online dating, so I know that finding love Online love is possible. By the time I met Varun, I wasn’t necessarily looking for love – I just wanted to meet people in a new city. But we can’t control when we meet the person we love.
Varun: I’ve never been in a relationship with someone I met online before. I’m never against the idea of finding love online, but I don’t take online dating too seriously, because I think the probability of finding “half” is very low. However, when I met Nicole, it felt like a very natural first date, rather than simply meeting someone online. As Nicole said, you don’t choose when things like this happen, they just do.
How is online dating different from finding love around you?
Nicole: With online dating, there seems to be an endless amount of options, which can be good and bad. You can find someone to chat or date, but again, it’s easy to waste your time and energy on the wrong people.
Varun: The way online dating differs from regular dating is that if you’re dating someone you’ve met online, you both know there’s an initial attraction there because you both “like” or “passing” each other. In the real world, unless you’re a very confident person, it can be difficult to talk about your concerns in advance with others or find ways to express them.
What are some things you don’t like about online dating?
Nicole: “Ghost” after we dated. Your attraction to someone online may not always translate into real life after you meet them in person, but you should kindly tell them that you are no longer interested, instead. for letting them wait for a reply.
Varun: People who post misleading pictures are my biggest online dating pet. Other than that, there’s nothing really specific that I don’t like.
Are you showing your perfect side when dating online or via text? Or are you your true self?
Nicole: At first, yes, my “perfect side” definitely improved. After chatting with Varun for a few hours on our first date, I felt very comfortable. By the end of the second date, I felt like I could completely be myself when I was with him.
Varun: Before I met Nicole in person, I definitely showed my “perfect side” and tried to bring out the best I could. After meeting her in person on our first date, I felt very comfortable being myself. I remember quitting the fake act very quickly!
Can you tell us what your dating profile is?
Nicole: It’s been about 5 years so the details are a bit fuzzy, but I’ve had a lot of photos where I feel confident and I also talk about being a scientist in my bio.
Varun: I think my online dating profile is just a few facts about me because I believe in candor and honesty. I also have things that interest me the most (like football and science) because I want to convey that I am passionate about my hobby.
Is connecting through online dating apps as fun as meeting someone in physical space?
Nicole: Before meeting in person, no. I usually talk to multiple “matches” at once, so it’s hard for any particular match to feel special. I also know from previous experience that sometimes the seemingly great online matches aren’t a good connection when we meet in person, so I don’t get myself too excited with anyone first. when meeting them in person. However, the excitement of a great first date (like my first date with Varun) is just as strong for me whether I meet the person online or in person. In fact, by the time I decide to meet someone online in real life, I’ve usually been talking to them for a while and know a lot about them, which makes a first date all the more amazing.
Varun: For a normal guy (like me), getting a match is always fun, let’s be honest. In the early stages of dating, I was always an introvert until I felt comfortable. For me, not having to worry about my voice, or my looks, or all the things I worry about when trying to show someone direct interest has made the process so easy and enjoyable. more taste.
What drew you to your online partner?
Nicole: Varun is very witty and we are both in high school, I feel like we are in the same place in life. It’s also one of the best clothes when it comes to love and commitment. Of course I also think that he is very attractive and gives me good energy.
Varun: I find her very attractive and I think she appears very confident and independent, which is something I appreciate. She also has her bio that is really well organized and easy to read — which is a very appropriate thing to point out but I really appreciate it.
Have you come across any fake profiles or fake identities online?
Nicole: I came across some fake profiles but I think I was aware of not interacting with them. I think most people try to be genuine but if you see someone who looks like stock photos, run the other way!
Varun – I don’t think I’ve come across fake profiles as much but this was back in 2016. I heard stories in 2022 where people were texting bots for two months without any issues. never knew! I think most apps these days have security on that but always verify if you can stand alone.
Was it love at first sight when you two met or did you take the time to get to know your partner?
Nicole: I think Varun is the best first date I’ve ever been on. This can be a bit annoying, but I was actually looking for “how do you know when you’ve met one?”. I’m a scientist and I don’t necessarily believe in “lightning love” but sometimes you just have to know and get that gut feeling!
Varun: For me, everything feels easy and a healthy relationship should be. I don’t believe in “falling in love” either but what I do know is that we both work hard for the relationship because we want to spend more time together. So looking back, I guess you could say it was lightning love, we just didn’t know it.
Do you think taking a chance or a ‘leap of faith’ is important to getting where you are right now?
Nicole: Absolutely. Every relationship requires it in some way. When we first started dating, Varun had to move back to Boston to finish graduate school in five months. Becoming distant early in a relationship is not ideal and you have to be willing to put your blind faith in it.
Varun: I think yes, when you start to care about someone, whether it’s online or in person, you’re taking a leap of faith. We do it in most aspects of our lives when we are faced with something exciting and new and for me, this is no different. Looking back, I’m so glad I met Nicole!
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